Tips for Hot Summer Fling

Monday, August 14, 2017 1:00 PM

Is there a reason why so many movies and songs have been written about summer romance? Maybe it's because as the temperature rises, some of us find ourselves stripping away our inhibitions along with our winter clothes. Summer brings a sense of fun and freedom that doesn’t seem to exist when we’re trudging through the snow bundled in a puffy down jacket.

Are you feeling the love in the thick evening air and looking for a little more than tan lines this season? Then get ready to throw caution to the wind and follow these tips for pulling off a hot summer fling:

1. Pay attention to the laws of attraction.

Of course, before you can jump into a summer romance, you have to attract someone first. Body language expert Janine Driver says if you want to draw attention to yourself for a potential love connection it's all about self-touch gestures. So next time you're hanging out on a rooftop bar or by the hotel pool, "try putting a finger to the lips, caressing a leg, and playing with a charm on a necklace." These movements will show that you're approachable.

2. Cast a wide net. Bars not your scene?

With an online dating app, you have access to hundreds of profiles of singles looking for a more casual romance. When you set up your profile, have a little fun in your bio, while setting clear expectations. Like "just looking for a fun-loving guy who doesn't want to meet my parents" or "part-time summer help wanted to rub aloe on my sunburn."

3. Don't quit your day job.

Or your friends, or your routine. It's much easier to keep things casual when you aren't spending 100% of your time with someone. If you usually go out with the girls on Friday night and spin class every Tuesday, keep those events on your calendar. Work your summer lover in when and where it suits your schedule.

4. No social media spamming.

Flings are about having fun, not about getting validation from your followers and friends. Refrain from blasting photos of your bawdy bliss all over the internet and instead spend more time interacting with real people.

5. Avoid dating where you work.

Having a quick romp with someone you work closely with like your boss or officemate is never a good idea. It's hard to keep things casual when you sit next to someone every day, or they're responsible for your next review. However, cute summer interns are another story...

6. Don't typecast.

This isn't someone you're looking to spend a lifetime with. Be open to the possibility of dating a person who is completely different than your "usual" type. This doesn't mean you should lower your standards, just keep in mind that fabulous summer diversions can come in all sizes, shapes, and ages.

7. Remember the good times.

When summer's over remember what it was like to put your pleasure first. Approach your next relationship with the same sexual confidence to ask for what you want in and out of bed without embarrassment.

8. Be honest with yourself.

If you're thinking "maybe this one-night stand will lead to true love," a fling may not be your thing. And that's okay. If you recognize that you want something more, be true to who you are and what you want from a relationship. Why not try a little harmless recreational flirting instead? It can be just as fun and give you a boost of confidence.

9. Bonus Tip:

Just because you have a permanent partner doesn't mean you can't have a temporary tryst - with your spouse of course. Merriam-Webster lesser known definition of a fling is "a period devoted to self-indulgence." Who among us can't use a little steamy self-indulgence? Is there a position, outfit, or sex toy that you've been wanting to try but haven't had the nerve? There's no better time than a summer vacation when you're away from the stresses of home to try something new.


The Sovaettes