The Science Of Foreplay

Wednesday, March 30, 2016 3:00 PM

Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D., argues that we need to re-define foreplay. It shouldn't be seen as a prelude to the main event, but instead as "a critical part of the main event." She states that "men take an average of four minutes to reach orgasm once they begin intercourse and women take somewhere around eleven minutes--and this is not eleven minutes of intercourse, it is eleven minutes of stimulation." So boys, unless you're prepared to perform for a full eleven minutes, be prepared to hold back until you know she's ready.

Women & Foreplay

"It's particularly important for women to have successful foreplay because it takes a woman a longer time [than a man] to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm," says Dr. Ruth Westheimer as quoted in WebMD.

"A woman especially needs emotional assurance that the man she's about to have sex with really wants to be with her. The time and attention given during foreplay can communicate that message in a way the 'Wham, bam, thank you, ma'am' approach simply cannot."

Men and Foreplay

"We joke that a man can get an erection thinking about most anything a naked women, a clothed woman, a good steak. It's true that "men, in general, arrive faster at a state of readiness for intercourse; therefore their interest in pre-coital sexual touching may be reduced." But Dr. Noam Shpancer of Psychology Today reports that "functional problems" for men "almost tripled among participants who did not include erotic contact in their sexual relations compared to those who did." Concluding that for some, foreplay is as important for sexual performance for men as it is women.

Is More Better?

Maybe not. Research on the duration of foreplay in Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that "partnered orgasm consistency is associated with greater duration of penile–vaginal intercourse but not of foreplay." Meaning women in the study had more consistent orgasms depending on the amount of time having sex, not the amount of time spent on foreplay. But that doesn't mean you should skip right to the main course. Sex is about an enjoyable journey just as much or more than it is about the destination. "Foreplay serves a physical and emotional purpose, helping prepare both mind and body for sex. Many women need to be kissed, hugged, and caressed to create lubrication in the vagina, which is important for comfortable intercourse." Who cares where the plane lands if you get to drink champagne and eat caviar in the first class cabin?

Check out our article later this month "How to Get in the Mood for Sex" for more about foreplay including helpful tips to get you started on your erotic journey.

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