The Naked Truth About Body Confidence

Wednesday, February 3, 2016 9:00 AM

What's your level of confidence in the buff? Do you strut around in your birthday suit every chance you get? Or do you slip under the covers in your PJs and then undress? There's nothing sexier than a woman with naked confidence. But we all know it's not as easy as just taking off your clothes. To truly be confident takes hard work and practice. And it's NOT about changing your body so you'll be comfortable naked, it's about changing your body image so you feel comfortable in your own skin. "Boosting your body confidence is 90% mental," say experts with a wide range of real-world experience.

Here are a few suggestions to help you get started:

1. First, stop complaining about your body to your friends, your mom, and especially your partner. Denise Martz, PhD, a clinical health psychologist, says "learning to describe yourself with neutral, objective phrases can help stop the cycle of poor self-esteem."

2. Focus on the body parts you love – whether it's your eyes or your thighs, focus on what you think are your best assets and play them up. When you look in the mirror, say something positive about your favorite features.

3. Appreciate what your body does for you on a daily basis, "from your lungs breathing, your heart beating, or your brain guiding you through the day's challenges.

4. Remember that no one is perfect. The models that you see in fashion magazines and swimsuit issues have been photo-shopped or retouched. So stop comparing yourself with these unrealistic and unattainable women.

5. Consider stretch marks badges of courage. They are a celebration of the life you've lived and the children you've born. Love your lines! Check out the #loveyourlines Instagram account for inspirational photos celebrating women and body positivity.

Tips for Boosting Your Naked Confidence

Changing your body image doesn't happen overnight. It may sound obvious, but a great way to increase your naked confidence is to be naked more often. If you're looking to get over the awkwardness of being naked before stripping down in front of your partner, here are a few tips:

1. Give yourself mandatory "naked time" daily. Put on your makeup, shop for new shoes online or watch your favorite sitcom in the buff.

2. Boost your confidence by taking sexy boudoir pictures. Even if you never show them to anyone. You'll see yourself how others see you, as a strong, sexy and confident woman.

3. Go to the spa, get a relaxing massage, get your nails done, and just focus on you. "Women have to transition between the mother who's taking care of everything to the seductive wife, and that doesn't happen in an instant," psychiatrist Scott Haltzman says. "It takes work."

4. Treat yourself to a bikini wax. While you might experience a little temporary pain, you'll feel more confident when you strip down.

5. Explore your naked body by pleasuring yourself with a personal vibrator that's just right for you. Masturbation releases dopamine, also known as the "feel-good" hormone. "In short, a masturbation-induced orgasm creates feelings of euphoria; it's a safe, free, and natural high."

Let's Get Naked

Now that you've spent time on yourself and practiced your naked confidence alone, it's time to practice with a partner!

1. Set the mood with candles around a steaming bubble bath. Ask your partner join you with a bottle of champagne. You'll quickly lose your inhibitions about being naked under all of those bubbles.

2. Break out the heels. High heels may help to define your calves and make you look taller.

3. If you're still not confident for some afternoon delight in the light of day, trying stripping down and then wake your partner in the middle of the night. Or sleep in the nude. Chances are your partner will jump you before you even have the chance to set your morning alarm.

Fake it 'til You Make it

Just remember that being comfortable in your own skin is within your control, but it's not easy. Continue to practice self-confidence even if it feels like your faking it. "Robyn Silverman, PhD, body image expert and author, agrees that 'faking' confidence will eventually turn bad body thoughts into good ones, though it takes time."

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