Tips for Finding the Best Online Dating Candidates

Wednesday, June 15, 2016 10:30 AM

Are your fingers worn out from swiping, but you still can’t find a quality match? Here are a few tricks of the trade for finding the best online dating candidates that even the most skilled swiper might find useful.


THE GOOD

Use these questions to narrow down whether or not a candidate fits in the "good" column.

  1. Do you have similar life goals and values?

  2. Do you have enough shared experiences to connect to and enough differences to keep things interesting?

  3. Are their answers genuine and sincere or generic or cliché?

  4. Do they match your activity level? If you're an avid runner or cyclist, someone who considers channel surfing exercise is not a good match.

THE BAD

Save time and potential awkwardness by trying to eliminate candidates before you agree to meet them. Know what your deal breakers are and stick by them. Here are a few things you may want to consider before meeting any candidates.

  1. Beware the shirtless bathroom selfies. If a guy doesn't have one single friend who's close enough for him to say "Hey, I need a dating profile picture, can you take it?" that may signal a red flag.

  2. Speaking of profile pics, what is happening in the photos? Is there excessive partying going on? Are all of their pictures at the gym? Watch out if these aren’t your interests too.

  3. Are other people in the photo? Beware the rebounders, or ask, if you want to be sure of the potential candidate's relationship history.

  4. Are they serial daters? They go on lots of dates but have never been in a long-term relationship. Unless you're also a serial dater, this person may not be for you.

STAY SAFE

While many people find love online, be aware that online and offline dangers do exist. Here are a few safety tips in mind:

  1. Beware of scam artists. The U.S. Federal Trade Commission lists the following as red flags to avoid online romance scams:


  2. "Keep your financial information private," states tinder.com. "Ignore any request to send money – even if the person claims to be in an emergency."

  3. When meeting a match in person for the first time it's best to be cautious. Get to know them before meeting them. When you do meet make sure it's a public place. Let a friend know as many details as possible about the person you’re meeting as well as when and where you're going. Arrange to have them text you at a time when you think the date will be over.

Cheers!

The Sovaettes